BREAKUPS

Allow me to be blunt: breakups SUCK.  I truly believe that going through a breakup with the person you thought you were going to spend your life with is one of the most excruciating life events someone can go through.  I can admit that before I went through my own in March, 2022, I didn’t understand that.  After going through it myself, I can attest to how unbelievably challenging it is to navigate. 

There are two big parts to breakups: healing and moving through the pain of the experience itself and starting to date again, if that is ultimately what you want to do.  At my practice, I help you with all aspects of the journey.  

When it comes to helping you navigate the emotional and mental fallouts of your breakup, I aim to first understand what your pain points are.  Some examples include, but are absolutely not limited to:

• Grief of losing the person and future you envisioned

• Second guessing breaking up or anything you could have done differently to not have been broken up with

• Loss of trust in others and/or yourself

• Anxiety regarding the unknowns of what comes next

• Fear you won’t find someone again

• Resentment around investing so much time and energy into the relationship only for it to end

• Questioning your identity being out of this relationship

• Sadness and loneliness

• Confusion over yearning for the support of the person who caused you pain

• Feeling “behind” when friends are getting engaged, married, and having kids

After we have identified these pain points, our sessions will help you:

• Understand and process complex the complex emotions of your heartache

• Reconnect with your core values and identity

• Explore the deeper meanings and lessons in this experience, without judgement, and with curiosity and compassion

• Rebuild your self-worth and confidence

• Clarify your vision for a meaningful, healthy life going forward, both solo and with a future partner

• Take intentional steps toward healing, growth, and personal empowerment

  DATING

  When it comes to helping you date again, we will use that clarity of what you want and need in a future life and partner to help guide how you date, ensuring that every step of the way you feel aligned with yourself and what matters to you. We will work on:

• Managing comparisons you may draw between new people and your ex

• Discerning between what is a “nice to have” vs “a must have” as it relates to your overall fulfillment in a partnership, and remaining grounded in the musts

• Helping you become more attuned to thought, emotional, and behavioral patterns that show up throughout dating, and identifying if they are being brought out because of a specific person or are rooted in unhealed wounds of yours (and addressing the latter if so)

• Keeping both your head and heart in the room with you both on dates and during reflections post-date

• Differentiating between compromising and settling

• Effectively filling three major buckets of getting to know someone through conversation, observation, and experiences

• Rebuilding your trust in yourself and regaining access to your intuition (it was never broken, just blocked)

  It is extremely common to fear ending up in another relationship that won’t be right for you. While I sadly can’t guarantee the outcome of anyone’s relationship, including my own, I can promise you that I will support you through this process in a way that champions you, challenges you, and always shines a spotlight on what you deserve so that you feel confident in choosing someone whom you identify is the best fit for you and beautifully adds to your life.